“You find yourself tempted to widen your boundaries as a parent in disciplining, because you don’t want them to become resentful to you or to soccer, and then they blame that, and then they want to quit,” Melissa said. “I was constantly battling with, OK, how far can I stretch this but still be within reason? So my advice is: Don’t stretch too far.”
The high price of playing on competitive squads is the chief criticism of youth soccer in the U.S., with costs including club and tournament fees and increasingly distant travel. The Mewises spent between $10,000-$12,000 a year on the girls’ soccer starting in their mid-teens.
To afford that investment, Bob supplemented the income from his full-time work for a firm that estimated costs for construction projects. He took on weekend jobs building, roofing or framing houses, joining his athletic daughters in soreness and fatigue.