On Tiger Moms

Julie Park:

When Amy Chua published an article in the Wall Street Journal last January entitled "Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior," people were offended. The article--an excerpt from her memoir, Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother--makes the case for a "Chinese" style of parenting in brutally honest terms. Chua, a professor of law at Yale and mother of two daughters, observes that "Chinese" parents produce many more "math whizzes and music prodigies" than "Western" parents. This, she claims, is the fruit of a style of parenting that values academic excellence, musical genius and, above all, success, and which does not shy away from imposing strict rules and restrictions, hard work that verges on torture, and despotic punishments. The Western style--with its emphasis on playing sports, having fun and building self-esteem--is by contrast woefully flaccid.

To illustrate her point, Chua describes her own parenting techniques: she never allowed her daughters to earn less than perfect grades (an A- or second place was unacceptable); even on vacation she forced them to endure three-hour piano and violin practice sessions without food or bathroom breaks (once, when her then three-year old daughter disobeyed, she made her stand outside in freezing weather); she used threats and extortion to force them to excel (when her younger daughter resisted learning a piano piece, Chua "threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years"). The only extracurricular activities she allowed her daughters were those in which they could win a medal (and that medal had to be gold)--"loser" activities like crafts, theater, television, sleepovers and dating were forbidden. Chua never mentions corporal punishment, but she does think it perfectly acceptable to call one's children fat, lazy, stupid or worthless--so long as it is done out of love and for the children's own good. She once told her older daughter she was "garbage."

Posted by Jim Zellmer at May 4, 2012 5:55 AM
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